No matter how much care we use in planting and caring for gardens, as they grow, we find that there are issues to address. The lavender grows too big and must be trimmed. The vines planted by the former occupant of the house keep growing up the brick walls of the house and rock wall built surrounding the house. So, the two of us put on our gardening gloves and took hold of gardening tools and went to work on trimming and pulling and cutting. We did this off and on for three days.
Working side-by-side with my daughter in the yard was wonderful. We both agree that pulling weeds is good for the soul. We shared some memories of Julie and laughed and cried as we both try to figure out how to live life after the life we knew and loved has been altered forever. We didn't figure that out. As a mom, I am just hobbling along trying to set an example of hope while knowing that broken hearts take a long time to heal.
Cutting back lavender and columbines
Keicha supervised by Lucy Lou weeds her vegetable garden
My daughter's vegetable garden, planted near her side door, is doing well despite the lack of sun that they have had in Utah this year. As I study the photo of her carefully weeding her tomatoes, squash and other vegetables, I am stuck by how quickly life goes by. I study my daughter, now an adult who owns her own home, has worked at her place of employment for over 20 years, has a daughter who will soon be a teenager, who is working in soil of her home which is located right next door to the doctor who delivered her and all of my other children.
It seems like life goes by way too quickly. It seems like just yesterday I was the young mother who just gave birth to this beautiful daughter. Yet my daughter, now grown, has a neighborly relationship with the older retired man who lives next door who was also the doctor who cared for her before she was born.
As Keicha works in her garden, I photographed another one of her garden planters. This one clearly states, "He who plants a garden, plants happiness." I like the message that this gives. I like that gardens speak of hope, of joy, of fulfillment, of creativity, and of beauty. I know that gardens also mean that one must labor and work hard. They mean that the gardener must be persistent, determined and not be easily discouraged when there is too little sun or too much rain. We learn much in the garden about life, but mostly I hope that our gardens bring us joy and happiness. I'm grateful for the little bit of time I had digging in the dirt with Keicha. I hope I can spend more time in years to come doing just a little work in her garden.
I must confess we did not spend all of our time working. We took an afternoon off from gardening so I could get a pedicure while Keicha ran errands. Later that afternoon, we went to our favorite spa for wonderful massages and time in the eucalyptus steam room. We relaxed and enjoyed it so much that we were shocked to find that nearly three hours had passed and it was early evening when we actually left the spa.
We also spent an afternoon at my favorite lunch spot, The Greenery at Rainbow Gardens. A trip to Utah just wouldn't be complete if I didn't get up to Rainbow. I had to have a Mormon Muffin for sure.
Off to Camp