Monday, August 1, 2011

When Your Mom is 95

Mother & Me
September 2010
My mother, who lives on her own six hours away from me, turned 95 in May.  What are we going to do with her?

Last Thursday evening, my sister in San Diego placed a worried call to me about 8:30 p.m.  "Hey, I've been trying to reach mother by phone since 4:30 our time.  Do you know if she went anywhere?  Have you talked to her lately?"

I replied with, "Yes, I spoke briefly with her around noon today.  She seemed fine.  Didn't speak of any plans.  She was just telling me about two baby skunks who had died in one of her window wells and how she'd called an animal control person to come out and get them."

As we continued to speak, we decided that we did have reasons be worried about her.

  • She had not been "reachable" for three hours.
  • We didn't know of any plans for the evening.
  • She doesn't drive, so she wouldn't be out on her own to dinner.
  • She doesn't go out with friends in the evening much.  She usually goes to lunch if she is going with friends.
  • Church meetings are not usually held on Thursday nights.
  • We didn't know of any family members who might have driven into to town and taken her out to dinner.
  • Perhaps she had been in the yard, had fallen, and could not get up.  (She does wear a life alert device, but you never know.)
"Will you call her neighbor?" my sis asked.  Soon my brother called from Colorado Springs.  "I think we should also call one of her friends and see if she knows where Mother might be."  So, I, the dutiful sister and daughter, made phone calls and alerted those who usually know what Mother might be doing.  

The neighbor went over to the house, checked all the rooms, looked all over the yard and found no trace of her.  He decided she had gone out for the evening.  Her friend said that she had no idea where she would go.  She then said she was heading over there pronto.  Three and half hours was a long time to be gone.  It was nearly 9:00 and no one had any idea where she was.

A little after 9:00, Mother called giggling like a school girl.  "Can't I go out without getting permission?" All those I had alerted were there when she got home asking where she had been.  It turns out she'd been to dinner.  My sis said, "Three hours is a long time to be gone for dinner."  "Not if it is at a friend's house," my mother replied.  A friend had invited her and another couple of friends over to her home for dinner so they could visit with a missionary who had just come back to the country after serving overseas.  

Reporting back to my sis, I commented, "Just because we are in our pajamas and settled in for the evening in the middle of the week doesn't mean our mother isn't out having a great social life."  My sis then posted this on facebook: "Why is it that you are settled in for the night and your 95 year old mother is out on the town?"  Mother's comment on facebook read, "Hey, Just because you guys don't have a life."  Yes, at age 95, she is on facebook.  What are we going to do with her?  



37 comments:

diana said...

Loved this post, Sally. Love my Aunt Alberta. She's an inspiration.

Sandi said...

What a delightful post! Your mom sounds like a hoot! But, you were good kids to fret over her, because it could have been not so good. Isn't it wonderful that she is so spry at 95? What a blessing for you and your siblings, and everyone else who knows her!

PS ~ thanks for reading and comments on my post. You are so right!

LittleSilkDress said...

I love this! So glad everything was okay and she was just out enjoying herself.

Beth said...

I love this post. I have a sis in WV who keeps tabs on me like that. :-) I don't blame you for being worried though, I certainly would have been.

lyndagrace said...

Did your Mom ever say this to you..."If you are going to be late, please call...we worry that you might be lying in a ditch somewhere." Hmm, looks like the tables are now turned huh?
It's so nice that your Mom, at 95, is spunky and enjoying her life. Good for her!
But I do understand the worrying part.

Buschy said...

too funny!

Olga said...

I think it is great that she was out and having a good time. I guess it is natural to worry though. I think it is called "pay back."

Dr. Kathy McCoy said...

Wonderful post, Sally! What are you going to do with her? Just love and enjoy her to the fullest every day! How terrific that she is commenting on Facebook! She's sounds terrific. What a blessing that she has reached 95 and is still healthy and very much with it!

Linda Myers said...

I hope you take after your mom!

Cape Cod Kitty said...

Rejoice! Now take a deep breath. You all must have been so worried. Great post...fun.

Jean said...

What a wonderful mother you have; what wonderful children and friends she has!

Joanne said...

I LOVE your Mom!!!!!!
How cool is she! I hope I am as awesome as she is at 95...I hope I MAKE it to 95!!!LOL
Thanks for the chuckle you and your sister and brother are good children to your Mom. I wish others would look after their parents like you all do!
Blessings, Joanne

gigihawaii said...

She is much better than my mother, who at the same age has dementia.

Arkansas Patti said...

I think you are just going to enjoy the heck out of her. She sounds like quite a woman. Maybe you can teach her to tweet so she can alert you all just where she will be.
Olga is right,this is paybacks for all the times you worried her.

DJan said...

I am just amazed. First, that you are so fortunate to have your mom around for so long and, second, that she is so darned COOL! Facebook, indeed!

Lynilu said...

That is wonderful!! You go, Mom!!!!!

Linda said...

A very fun post. I loved it. Oh that all of us could be that sharp at 95. Enjoy the rest of the ride. At least you won't be bored.

Jeanie said...

What a great story and kudos to your mom for having so much spunk. It sounds like you all stay in good touch with her and were right to worry when she was out of touch. You may just have to set down some rules for her about letting you know what her plans are :)

Linda Reeder said...

Facebook indeed! My 89 year old mother will have nothing to do with computers. How cool that your mom is 'connected'.

becca said...

hehe..to funny reminds me of my grandma before she past away she would go out dancing on saturday with friends while we the younger folks would be at home watching tv. loved this story and yay for mom for being so much fun

Kathy Anne Hernandez said...

All I can think to say is "You go girl!" I love Aunt Alberta.

Bossy Betty said...

What a great post! What are you going to do with her? Emulate her in every way!

#1Nana said...

What a blessing that she is still going out at 95. My father in law died early this summer; he was also in his mid-90s. The last few years were not good ones for him. Of all the problems with aging parents, this is a good one to have.

Blissed-Out Grandma said...

That is hilarious and wonderful. Enjoy every moment with her.

Nat said...

How wonderful! Your mom sounds fabulous... glad she was OK :-)

JBO said...

Thank God that she is still so spunky first.

Then get her a med alert. It totally took the pain out of worry for us---
but then my mom is young at 81

Dee Ready said...

In the convent, the nuns used to say, "It's better to wear out than to rust out!" Your mom seems the epitome of that. She's going strong at 95. What a model for us all. She sounds like one feisty woman!

Barb said...

Sally - you are so blessed to have a Mother still "on the go" setting a good example for all of us! Loved your story.

Kay said...

Awwww... loved this, Sally. I know what you mean. When I'm away from home and my mother doesn't answer the phone, I call my brother and ask him to check on her. And she's only 82. I do keep telling her that she's just a baby yet. She seems to have more energy than I do. Your mom looks like she's in fabulous shape. I LOVE it that she's on Facebook. I'll bet she's got a TON of Friends.

gayle said...

I love that your mom is on facebook and knows how!!! She sounds like a great lady!

fiftyodd said...

Your mom looks amazing for her age! I wish mine could have looked as good. I was only privileged to have her until she reached 90. Looks like yours will never have health problems.

Deirdra Eden-Coppel said...

Love this!

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Midlife Jobhunter said...

Hopefully be as full of life as she when you get to her age.

Delightful story.

Rose said...

What a great post! It's wonderful that your Mom is so active and "has a life" at 95. I'm sure that deep down she was pleased to know you all cared enough to worry about her, though. My mother's only 81, but Dad often grumbles that she's "on the go" too much, but I think it's great that she has so many activities she enjoys.

I came here by way of Maggie May's blog, where I've often seen your name in the comments. I'm a retired English teacher, too--nice to meet you!

troutbirder said...

Sounds like my father. What spunk. Count your blessings. :)

Jeanie said...

This is so darned cute! You mom sounds great -- and boy, do I know the worry feeling! I'm glad it all was well -- sounds like she had a great time!

KleinsteMotte said...

This is so real.We always think something is wrong in these situations. That she's on Facebook makes sense when the family is scattered.