tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post3742923662290442729..comments2023-12-27T09:28:32.621-07:00Comments on Retired English Teacher: The Long WeekendSally Wesselyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-76676513973320832002013-06-11T22:35:40.886-06:002013-06-11T22:35:40.886-06:00It's such a blessing that you share a bit of J...It's such a blessing that you share a bit of Julie with us. Your loving words and those precious videos bring her alive to us in a whole new way. Grief is so complicated, especially when you have lost a child. The pain will probably always be a part of the person you are now, but I hope that writing about her and sharing your beautiful Julie with all of us helps your healing.Dr. Kathy McCoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02903015507894951725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-56177647173002070692013-06-06T21:28:28.940-06:002013-06-06T21:28:28.940-06:00We who have not experienced such a loss can;t real...We who have not experienced such a loss can;t really comprehend the depth of the loss you've experienced. Life goes on, yes, but your life will never be the same. Write about Julie, talk about her, celebrate her life. I send you big hugs. Bossy Bettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12568355839499622409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-47443610256731316772013-06-06T07:19:13.948-06:002013-06-06T07:19:13.948-06:00Very beautiful tribute to Julie and to living, Sal...Very beautiful tribute to Julie and to living, Sally. Thinking about you and hope you are feeling much better.<br />MarciaMsGrayseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09904170938207154612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-32466154267211975892013-06-05T15:43:05.817-06:002013-06-05T15:43:05.817-06:00Dear Sally,
I am so very sorry for the pain you h...Dear Sally,<br /><br />I am so very sorry for the pain you have to bear. Remembering Julie as you do and writing about her here, opening your heart to your many friends, is such a sign of trust in your readers and I hope it helps to heal the wounds.<br /><br />My thoughts and prayers are with you.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-86375693404055010962013-06-05T08:57:52.773-06:002013-06-05T08:57:52.773-06:00That was a very moving post and I felt choked up r...That was a very moving post and I felt choked up reading it. However, you are moving on and I do admire you for that. I think that there are some occasions, like the death of a child, where a piece of you dies too.<br />It is good to know that light follows the darkness because otherwise I don't think it would be bearable at all.<br />Maggie x<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-23655875847671376452013-06-01T16:26:33.070-06:002013-06-01T16:26:33.070-06:00That was so sad and so lovely and so brave. That was so sad and so lovely and so brave. Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-3352995996170090002013-06-01T14:23:04.290-06:002013-06-01T14:23:04.290-06:00I'm so sorry for the pain you are working thro...I'm so sorry for the pain you are working through, Sally. I can only imagine the scope of how difficult that has to be. <br /><br />I'm sorry I haven't been able to visit. While we were gone to China, I was cut off from my blog. Although I couldn’t access my blog, I got your comments via e-mail and they always brought a smile to my face. <br /><br />I’ve just finished my China blog posts so I need to work on our photo album because we have too many things happening this summer that will take up our time. Life does tend to occasionally intrude on our blogging. Thank you again for being such a wonderful friend.<br /><br />Sending you lots of hugs from across the ocean.<br />Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461569436322815787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-58227291409610030992013-06-01T13:22:16.515-06:002013-06-01T13:22:16.515-06:00I doubt if there is any pain like the loss of your...I doubt if there is any pain like the loss of your child. I am so sorry you had to suffer that. <br />Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-78105034135287464092013-06-01T07:31:07.011-06:002013-06-01T07:31:07.011-06:00I can't imagine how you must feel, Sally, but ...I can't imagine how you must feel, Sally, but I think "allowing it to heal...moving forward" is a positive way to deal with your grief. I think I've mentioned before that my best friend's daughter (and my goddaughter) was killed in an accident about six years ago. She has learned to move on with her life, focusing on the sweet granddaughters who were left behind. But there are still times when a special day or a memory brings back the tears. Julie will always be a part of your life, even if she has moved to a different realm. <br /><br />I missed your last post somehow--I'm so sorry that you have been unwell! I hope that the doctors can find a cause for all your distress and give you some much needed relief soon.<br /><br />Blessings to you, Sally.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384059342847120951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-5279283905748553152013-05-31T15:17:19.309-06:002013-05-31T15:17:19.309-06:00Dear Sally - I am late in reading this - but I fee...Dear Sally - I am late in reading this - but I feel so bad and I know you hurt and you always will. There is no answer. I know you loved her and she knows that. Hugs to you. sandieChatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-19569776438051343082013-05-31T10:23:54.210-06:002013-05-31T10:23:54.210-06:00Thinking of you today even though I am far, far aw...Thinking of you today even though I am far, far away.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-54761394944509165542013-05-30T18:10:27.315-06:002013-05-30T18:10:27.315-06:00This post is like its author: courageous, love fil...This post is like its author: courageous, love filled, and full of hope and grace. Thank you, SallyJohn Paul McKinneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12426192694972130205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-561297100368871352013-05-30T17:39:55.939-06:002013-05-30T17:39:55.939-06:00When the passing of a loved one corresponds with a...When the passing of a loved one corresponds with a holiday it is so hard to celebrate with everyone else. <br />I am so pleased that you managed to fill it though with good people and the touch of God. <br /> This was a painfully beautiful post with feelings both raw and hopeful. Sending hugs. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-45655286578911857262013-05-30T15:50:47.711-06:002013-05-30T15:50:47.711-06:00Dear Sally, I thought of you this weekend, wonderi...Dear Sally, I thought of you this weekend, wondering how you were feeling. Your loss is immeasurable. I have never experienced a grief so painful; I truly cannot imagine. That said, you always seem to look toward life, remembering Julie and expressing your grief, but also allowing joy to enter your heart and flow outward. I send you all my good wishes and also a hug. I hope you find solace in your new home, your beautiful plantings, your loving husband, your supportive friends, and your caring family. (Also enjoy Boston who I can see will have a super deck for a nap.)Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984171407726520584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-79005249567966598032013-05-30T15:32:29.661-06:002013-05-30T15:32:29.661-06:00I know the pain is deep, but I so admire all the w...I know the pain is deep, but I so admire all the ways you are helping yourself to heal. Gardening, even in pots, is a life-affirming activity in itself, and you've chosen a great way to plan for future, more permanent plantings. Nancy/BLissed-Out Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223278142557533175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-76047789532406697932013-05-30T06:59:32.191-06:002013-05-30T06:59:32.191-06:00There are no words I can offer that seem meaningfu...There are no words I can offer that seem meaningful. Grief is individual and personal, so we can only try to understand from afar. I'm sorry the coincidence of this weekend is so strong for you, but your busy-ness is good. Warm hugs, Sally. Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-10983647845504090182013-05-30T06:40:52.010-06:002013-05-30T06:40:52.010-06:00The grief is still fresh after only three years, b...The grief is still fresh after only three years, but you have made incredible progress, Sally. I am so glad you have shared this lovely post with me, showing without any doubt that you are indeed healing. Sending you big hugs through the ether...DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-3825649440609888292013-05-30T00:08:36.063-06:002013-05-30T00:08:36.063-06:00My sister, whom I don't see very often, has lo...My sister, whom I don't see very often, has lost two sons and a granddaughter. She has trouble voicing her feelings, so reading your words and thoughts helps me to better understand what she deals with daily, and especially on these memorial days, when the memories come flooding back and the "what ifs" bombard.Linda Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665601809156707572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-6541417724074527972013-05-29T19:29:12.639-06:002013-05-29T19:29:12.639-06:00Sally, you are so eloquent, so open, so generous i...Sally, you are so eloquent, so open, so generous in sharing your words and thoughts and again I am filled with admiration for your strength and grace. For whatever reason, I thought that anniversary had occurred earlier. What a double whammy to deal with the holiday and the anniversary. I am reminded of Rick's former tenant who took his life on Thanksgiving Day -- there will always be two anniversaries as you have experienced. So much for the "holiday."<br /><br />In your words,in your gestures, I see such strength, such will to both feel and remember and move forward. It's a tough combination, but I have no doubt you will succeed and always remember with love.<br /><br />Your flowers in pots remind me of mine -- only your yard looks much neater! A good time to plant.<br /><br />Sending love, jeanieJeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-91658315739978960922013-05-29T19:09:35.804-06:002013-05-29T19:09:35.804-06:00I can't believe that it has been three years. ...I can't believe that it has been three years. I notice in your writing that your focus is frequently on the gifts that Julie brought to your life. I'm sure you will never forget and never stop missing her, but the blessing of healing is that your memories revolve around the joy of Julie's life. I'm glad you had a good weekend and I'm glad you've allowed us to walk the path of healing with you. Hugs#1Nanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04214011945298439939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-78803900767626334682013-05-29T18:54:25.038-06:002013-05-29T18:54:25.038-06:00Sally, you are strong in so many ways. I am espec...Sally, you are strong in so many ways. I am especially glad to read of your friend. How wonderful that you are now close in location as well as in the heart.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-38723042830972136192013-05-29T18:47:29.653-06:002013-05-29T18:47:29.653-06:00I know, I know, but thanks for sharing your post. ...I know, I know, but thanks for sharing your post. And your flowers.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-70134086925885385512013-05-29T16:59:18.393-06:002013-05-29T16:59:18.393-06:00And fathers as well. It been all of 15 yeara now a...And fathers as well. It been all of 15 yeara now and the phone call I got in the middle of night seems as but yesterday. I remember the words of my daughter in law.."he flyfishing with God now" and the lost dreams we shared.troutbirderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087811292280881959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-29878837980837223222013-05-29T16:49:21.789-06:002013-05-29T16:49:21.789-06:00And love is such a doubled-edged sword...
I think...And love is such a doubled-edged sword...<br /><br />I think you are one hell of a woman!<br /><br />Blessings, KathyKathyAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12723937251892708482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041834369094012241.post-87693078879723620132013-05-29T16:03:06.851-06:002013-05-29T16:03:06.851-06:00So hard to have these anniveraries at any time, bu...So hard to have these anniveraries at any time, but particularly when they come after a holiday weekend. A deeply loving and moving post which goes to the heart of what it means to lose a child. Praying for healing for your grief and unfading memories of your beloved daughter.Perpetuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01214396019726161983noreply@blogger.com